I spoke to a friend tonight who is deeply hurting over the words that someone continues to speak about her. She is lost and wants to give up. She cannot escape the words. Telling the person to be quiet does not help. Trying to block out the words doesn’t help.
She says she wants to quit. She wonders if she should because maybe that would let this person have victory in her failure. Perhaps she will get some quietude, some peace.
How can I speak life here?
We talked about boundaries, but in a small space with four people crammed into a house, it is difficult to have personal space. And it seems to provoke more insults. Words like “lazy” are sharp as a knife. It is emotional and spiritual warfare.
How can I promote peace here?
She is sorrowful because the person hurting her is provoking her to anger. She yells back and then feels terrible for doing so. She fights against the words. Words that she says make her feel like “shit” the rest of the day. It’s an ugly, horrible word. Yet, it depicts the filth of what is going on behind closed doors. She is smeared with the verbal abuse, and it covers her vision.
How can I promote joy here?
In the here and now, there are no words to speak. I remind her that she is loved. I tell her that if I was with her, I would hug her.
I long for her to see how deeply she is loved and cared for, and not just by me. Rather, by our God who is Healer.
I lean into 1 Samuel 16:7 “…For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
I draw from God’s living waters and reflect on Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart.”
I think on Romans 8:15 in which we cry out “Abba!” or “Father!” and Romans 8:26-27 “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit”
A Reminder of Who You Are
I don’t know why you are going through what you are, but I know who you are. You are a child of the Most High God!
You are loved by God, no matter what.
I know that you are feeling broken. Let me remind you that God is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).
I know that you feel alone, but God is with you. Do not be dismayed. Be strong and courageous for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. (Joshua 1:9)
And when you cannot pray, cry out Jesus or Abba, because He hears and answers your prayers.
I would encourage you to visit this link: http://www.webministries.info/papers/whoiamin.htm
If you stumbled on this page and don’t know Jesus Christ…
Let me just encourage you today that if you have stumbled on this page, and you read this because you are lonely and hurting, I am incredibly sorry for the pain that you are going through.
I cannot promise you riches, but He can promise you treasures in Heaven. I cannot promise a life without struggle, but God can show you where there is hope and peace. I cannot promise you a longer life, but I know that God can give you everlasting life. Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever. He is the same God today as the God who created the Heavens, who healed the blind and cast out demons. He is the same God today as the God who turned water into wine, and who demonstrates His love through forgiveness of sins.
If you don’t know Jesus Christ, who is the Son of God, your Savior, then I encourage you to learn more here: http://www.needhim.org/
You are loved, and while you may feel lost, God has found you right where you are. He will not leave you. He will not abandon you. He will renew your strength. He will give you a new song. He heals the brokenhearted. He hears your cries. You are part of something bigger and He has big, big plans for you! Plans for good and not for harm.